Sexual intimacy is percieved differently by men and women. Women link sex with emotional involvement, but men want sex for physical pleasure, to please their partner, or to relieve tension (Gamble, p. 181). The reason men may be better able to separate sex from emotion is because they are pressured to have sex more often, thus making it a less special ordeal.

In the movie Wedding Crashers, the scene where one of the guys finds out that the girl he just slept with was a virgin displays the different perceptions men and women have of sex. The man in the movie simply wanted sex to feel pleasure, but the girl expected sex to involve a committed relationship. This really upset the man because he was not interested in having a relationship, but did not realize until after the sex that the woman was expecting emotional involvement. This is the exact clip of that scene.

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company.

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